Specialties

“I’ve been at my job for years, and I’m just getting more and more tired.  There’s no end in sight, and I’m getting burned out.”

“Now that I’ve graduated, I don’t know what I want to do.  I’m not sure what I want to do, and I just get overwhelmed thinking about it.  I feel stuck.”

“I’m stuck in a job that works, but isn’t what I want to do.  I know I’m capable of more, but something is keeping me from really investing myself 100%.”

Therapy can assist in a number of important ways:

• Help calm the body / emotions in order to allow the mind work more efficiently.
• Help name what long-term goals feel truly worthy of your precious time and energy.
• Help clarify the most important emotional skills to move you toward your goals.
• Help identify the limiting beliefs or emotional learnings that drain your energy.
• Help you support yourself in the most effective way.

I am still healing from an experience of religious trauma.

I believe that I’m valued by whoever or whatever brought me here, but something is keeping me from feeling it.

Do I have to be saved?  Drop my ego?  Meditate?  What does all this even mean?

How do I reconcile my beliefs about the Divine with my day-to-day life?

There can be many reasons that a once-close relationship can drift apart; old injuries, busy schedules, unresolved frustrations that build, or just the inability to navigate a new stage of life together.

Whatever the reason, in order to change the trajectory you need a safe, structured place to talk about it.  Usually, when couples try that conversation, everyone ends up frustrated and unheard.

EFT and the Dynamic Psychotherapies give us a clear, research-based roadmap to creating the kind of emotional safety where each person can share honestly and deeply without triggering an argument.  Then, Attachment Theory gives us insight into the science of intimacy, in order to move toward a more satisfying, connected, and comfortable connection.

Without question, one of the most difficult experiences for anyone is to discover that their partner has been secretly involved with someone else.  The extreme emotions of hurt, rage, fear, doubt, and others can fluctuate day-to-day, or moment-to-moment.  The injured partner may need time and space to consider whether or not they’re ready to enter a reconciliation process. Or they may want to move forward but not know how.  And for the offending partner, the combination of indignation, guilt, and deep shame can create reactions of frustration, distance, or depression.

In this environment, the chances of having a productive conversation are slim.  We know from our research that there are some important tasks that the couple needs to accomplish if trust is ever to be rebuilt. 

Maybe the most common roadblock for couples trying to heal from infidelity is the two-fold nature of the problem.  On one hand is the very real one-way impact of the injury.  The injured partner will typically have symptoms of trauma and an elevated sense of danger, resulting from a deeply impacted nervous system.  This very real and very physical injury needs to be addressed in specific ways to begin rebuilding trust.

On the other hand, there are often patterns of disconnection and distance that had been present in the relationship before the affair began.  These also need to be addressed in order to move forward and heal, but they must be discussed separately to be successful.

Maybe the most important message for couples in the throes of injury is that healing is possible.  Others have successfully made it through the storm. Even though it may feel impossible at first, trust can be slowly and carefully built again.

Discovering your true voice is neither an easy nor unimportant task.  A fundamental part of the human experience is to recognize your own unique contribution to the world.

Our sessions can help you clarify where you are, and who you are, and what you have to say. I have worked with everyone from musicians, to lawyers, to entrepreneurs, to retirees as they discover their unique gifts, and their courage to share them with the world.